The Results of Fear Part 1
“And there are several reasons for why people wait for the sure-thing boat; most however can be found in fear of the poverty, fear of criticism, fear of ill health, fear of the loss of love, fear of old age and the fear of death…” — Dale Carnegie & Napoleon Hill
Fear is the single biggest reason for why people procrastinate as well as why they don’t try: speaking in public, singing unless in the shower, applying for a job, asking for anything from someone you revere or fear, opening the door when opportunity knocks, buying at the right time, entering the contest, attempting anything such as: driving, flying, skiing, loving others, etc. It is sad to think of the talent, gifts, art, and music the world is missing out on because of fear. It is heartbreaking to think about the loss not only to the world, but more importantly to the person who will not reach their potential because of fear.
Fear may be the worst enemy ever known to mankind yet, as children we originally learned fear as a means to keep us safe. So, although it was meant for good it can, if left unchecked, become an enemy in the long run. Fear is also used in religious beliefs; that is to say it is used to keep us on the right track for if we don’t, we suffer the consequences. Fear is used to help in the discipline of a child such as a child being told if they don’t do what they are told then something they fear will happen.
What is really sad is when fear and guilt are used together as is done by religions, parents, friends, spouses, etc. Fear and guilt when used together provide a one-two punch in that they can destroy the desire to aspire as well as remove any motivation. The results of this one-two punch, more often than not deters us from becoming all we were meant to be.
The power “we give” to fear can wind up controlling our every action, move and thought. The paralyzing after effect of fear can and often does keep us from achieving anything of significance. Due to fear we are afraid to try and thus never reach our potential. Imagine this kind of fear in a farmer who decides not to plant the seeds in the soil for fear the seeds will not grow or produce. Imagine the dairy farmer who is afraid to raise and feed cows for fear they will not produce milk. Imagine the rancher who fears his fences will not hold therefore, allowing the cattle to scatter just prior to being sold to the butcher. Imagine the song writer who is afraid if he/she writes a song no one will listen and or no one will like it. Imagine the boy who falls in love with the girl, but decides not to pursue for fear of rejection. This could go on into every aspect of our lives with the same result; we would have no food to eat, no clothes to wear, no cars to drive, no music to listen to, no art to appreciate, no love in our lives.
In order to overcome fear one must face it. As archaic and simple as this may seem it is the only way the fear will lose its control of you in that area. Usually when one starts on this journey they have to get angry in order to follow it through. In other words when one finally decides they are not going to allow themselves to be afraid anymore they use the emotion of anger to help them carry the process through. They are actually angry at what they were fearful of, but because of the anger it appears they are taking it out on others. If one continues on this journey of facing their fears this anger issue usually subsides as the person becomes stronger while recognizing there is no need for the anger in order to face their fears. So, if you are the recipient of some of this anger be cognizant and patient of the others you may know who are on this journey. If it is you going through this phase then rest assured the anger will pass as you get a handle on overcoming each fear.
Fear is the reason people wind up taking the ‘SURE-THING BOAT’ through life; for on the ‘SURE-THING BOAT’ there is no way one can be disappointed, lose, fail, or be rejected. At least this is the thought process however, this is not the case. There is much disappointment, much loss, lots of failure as well as rejection. The disappointment comes from not having what others have. It also comes from being disappointed in self. There is loss due to a lack of effort on your part to make something of yourself and become what it takes to attract what you want. There is failure, but this is seldom recognized due to your decision to sit out the game of life. There is rejection for you will not be recognized or acknowledged by those whom you would like to become friends. This is simply because your decision to take the easy road has left you out of touch with those who are making things happen.
There is a simple rule that says, “To those who are willing to dare will go the spoils of life for they will find the gold; they will accomplish the most; they will have the biggest harvests and they will be the ones that win in the game of life. Those who choose not to take this road will not enjoy life nearly as much.
What fear is it that is holding you back from accomplishing your dreams? What are you going to do about it? It is a must that you get started today. You can start by writing down your fears and facing them ONE AT A TIME. Believe me, you will be glad you did.
Best of LUCK as you
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